Learn how to be a powerful observer

Bringing Leadership to Life

Do you need help to get yourself and your team to agree on what’s important and commit to making it happen?

The ebb and flow of everyday life presents concerns about trust and results. This can happen when your energy is depleted, the problem is intractable or you just overcommit. You will be more effective when you have a deeper understanding of what’s going on in your mind, body and soul. It’s often your contaminated or shallow thinking that stops you adopting a life leader mindset in any situation you find yourself in. But it does mean learning how to deal with paradox and risk in situations where there is no obvious best way.

“Where you direct your mind you move your life”  – Richard Newton ‘The Little Book of Big Thinking’

Observe with curiosity

As Marcus Aurelius reminds us ” it is wiser to treat facts as opinions and truth as perspectives”. Always seek growth, as you can deceive yourself if you fail to observe and ground what makes sense before you act. This website is designed to help you navigate and develop your capacity recognise your blind spots. It starts with your ability to observe your own Way of Being, to reveal your predispositions and how others perceive the world. Thoughts drive our feelings, which impacts on our behaviour and shapes what we pay attention to. This makes change messy as we have to accept our fallibility, inconsistency, internal tensions, misunderstandings, etc.

“The real voyage of discovery consists, not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”
– Marcel Proust

Practice with commitment

You will learn how to deal with the human problems that emerge when directing, guiding and facilitating the performance of others. Unless you are willing to change and develop through regular practice, the learning you get will simply be another insight and not grow your capacities as a human being. Only self-awareness and everyday practice will improve the way you fix breakdowns, generate goodwill, hold yourself accountable and inspire enthusiasm. In a world dominated by artificial intelligence, effective leaders will also need to be altruistic, analytical and assertive. These skills are learned through trial and error. 

“Mistakes are the portals of discovery.”  – James Joyce

Speak with intention

Notice how your interpretation of reality is shaped by the language you use. Conversation is the language of leadership and coaching. Your intentions will be better understood and interpreted. Mastering six linguistic acts will transform your effectiveness. When adopted by a team they will greatly enhance performance as they focus on what’s possible, not just what’s probable.

“Conversations provide contexts for learning and are the medium for change.”  – Prof Alan Sieler

Listen with empathy

The moods and emotions you adopt and how your body relates and reacts will enhance your ability to transform your actions and get breakthrough results. As you learn how to listen and speak with empathy mutual respect and self-motivation will grow. The commitment to agree and act on what matters most will transform relationships and results.

“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough”  Frank Crane

I encourage you to browse the site and find behaviours you can practice today to transform your leadership effectiveness as a learning leader and life coach.  


The world is changing so fast that leaders increasingly know less than their employees or clients, especially in complex adaptive systems. Leadership then becomes more about your “way of being”. Like coaches, leaders rely more on the specialist knowledge and talent of others to take risks and go for results that they care about. It’s the ability to build human capacities that will make tomorrow’s leaders more influential and respected as collaborators and facilitators.

“Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flow charts. It is about one life influencing another.”  – John C. Maxwell

Being a leader involves deep listening, creating a calm and empathetic presence and remaining curious when facing uncertainty or handling conflict. It will be the capacity to coordinate conversations and support learning that will build the trust and commitment needed to wrestle with paradox and deliver a shared vision.

Leaders and coaches have to think and act in new ways to go to new places and make sense of them. I offer you four new ways of thinking that will prepare you for more uncertain and complex reality where events happen contrary to what you expect. There is a need to understand how to:

  • Produce a coherent story from multiple perspectives – using your energy producers
  • Produce convincing new worlds to live in and lead from – using your life movie makers
  • Create space to generate new insights and behaviours – using your reality creators
  • Turn emotions into vehicles for creativity and curiosity – using your mood managers

“Every human has the built-in power to improve, to change for the better, to significantly restore and often to recover. Tomorrow, that person you see in the mirror can be a stronger, more capable, livelier, more powerfully centred, and a still-growing person.” – Dr Michael Merzenich ‘Soft-Wired’

If you need someone to confide in and reveal your blindspots then let’s have a confidential chat.

Steve Trivett
Master Coach & Learning Mentor

Learn to be a Life Leader

How you will benefit
Why it's important today
What you will learn

My Mission

To help leaders and coaches hone their conversation and relationship skills.

Book of the Month

Life Leadership Project. All rights Reserved. 2017-18