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Do you need help to get yourself and your team to agree on what’s important and commit to making it happen?

You cannot step out from the ebb and flow of daily life and the anxiety or exhaustion it brings. It inevitably impacts on your ability to trust and fulfil your commitments. Consequently, your energy gets depleted, problems become intractable or you are tempted to overcommit yourself. Should you get “stuck” in a negative mind state you may not see new possibilities for action. Then it’s time to be mindful. Accept what you cannot change, be open to multiple perspectives and find an alternative way of seeing and being.

“Where you direct your mind you move your life”  – Richard Newton ‘The Little Book of Big Thinking’

Observe with curiosity

As Marcus Aurelius reminds us ” it is wiser to treat facts as opinions and truth as perspectives”. You can deceive yourself with your habitual behaviour if you fail to intervene and consider alternatives. This website helps you develop your capacity to respect, accept, reflect and find new meaning. You are encouraged to start with your own Way of Being to reveal the intentions behind your feelings. You may have to accept your own fallibility, inconsistency, misunderstandings and internal dilemmas.

What you are being asked to do is to become more aware of your assessments and how quickly you create them and defend them without question. Care is needed to reflect on what you, and other people, are basing their assessments on so they can be shared and understood. Over time, you gain a sense of who you and other people are assuming what is said and done and their assessments of what is said and done. 

“The real voyage of discovery consists, not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”
– Marcel Proust

Practice with commitment

Great leaders are self-aware and willing to learn how to hold the space for conversations to get at what is important. Problems emerge from the way leaders and coaches guide, support and facilitating the learning of others.  Insights are not enough, transformation comes from investing in human capacities. Practice how to fix breakdowns, generate goodwill, build trust, demand accountability, etc.

“Mistakes are the portals of discovery.”  – James Joyce

Speak with intention

Mindfulness involves noticing how reality is shaped by mistakes and novelty. Conversation is the language of leadership and coaching. It reveals intentions, distinctions and interpretations. For example, mastering just six linguistic acts can transform relationships and results. When practised by a team they will greatly enhance performance as the focus is on what’s important to address shared concerns.

“Conversations provide contexts for learning and are the medium for change.”  – Prof Alan Sieler

Listen with empathy

Your mood and body state can limit or enhance your ability to listen. Being relaxed, open and fully present enables you to be more aware and attentive. This enhances your ability to connect without any resistance and to respect different worldviews. A commitment to accept and act on what matters transforms relationships and results.

“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough”  Frank Crane

I encourage you to browse the site and find behaviours you can practice today to transform your leadership effectiveness as a learning leader and life coach.  


The world is changing so fast that leaders increasingly know less than their employees or clients. Life Leadership is more about doing and being. As a coach and leader, you rely more on the specialist knowledge and talent of others. Never compromise on securing quality relationships that care for people’s souls. It’s the ability to build human capacities that will help you notice more and become an effective collaborator, teacher and facilitator.

“Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flow charts. It is about one life influencing another.”  – John C. Maxwell

Being a leader involves deep listening, creating a calm and empathetic presence and remaining curious when facing uncertainty. It will be your capacity to coordinate conversations and support learning that will build the trust and commitment needed to cope with paradox and deliver a shared vision.

You are under increasing pressure to think and act in new ways. This website explains how. Courage is needed to play with new possibilities until they make sense to you. I have put together four new ways of helping leaders thrive in a more uncertain and complex world, where events happen contrary to what you would expect. There is a growing demand for leaders to:

  • Produce a coherent story from multiple perspectives – using your energy producers
  • Produce convincing new worlds to live in and lead from – using your life movie makers
  • Create space to generate new insights and behaviours – using your reality creators
  • Turn emotions into vehicles for creativity and curiosity – using your mood managers

“Every human has the built-in power to improve, to change for the better, to significantly restore and often to recover. Tomorrow, that person you see in the mirror can be a stronger, more capable, livelier, more powerfully centred, and a still-growing person.” – Dr Michael Merzenich ‘Soft-Wired’

What are you going to practice? If you need someone to help you see your blindspots then let’s have a confidential chat.

Steve Trivett
Master Coach & Learning Mentor

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